Expectations Ruin Relationships

Expectations are beliefs (or opinions, or convictions, or fantasy) that somethings will happen or are likely to happen. We consciously and unconsciously generate expectations all of the time based on our personal and cultural history. It is rare that as adults we walk into any kind of social situation with no expectations. When we walk into a restaurant we expect to be given a menu. The mailman drops off the mail around noon. Your husband should be the one who mows the grass. He should remember your birthday. He should get you that necklace that you have dropped numerous hints about and plan a surprise vacation to the Bahamas. Wait! What? You see how quickly expectations can go from the ordi

Mindful Eating — Studies Show This Concept Can Help Clients Lose Weight and Better Manage Chronic Di

Written by Cheryl Harris, MPH, RD for Todays Dietitian Linda sat at a table with a piece of rich, dark chocolate in front of her. After breathing in its sweet aroma, she took a small bite and let the chocolate slowly dissolve in her mouth. Her taste buds savored the mixture of creaminess and sweetness. “Wow, that’s the best piece of chocolate I’ve ever eaten!” Linda said to her dietitian. What’s interesting is that this exchange was part of a nutrition counseling session that focused on mindfulness, the concept of being present in the moment, and mindful eating, being aware of all facets of the eating process. Mindfulness continues to gain widespread support to promote health and wellness, a

Why Eating Right and Gym Motivation is Mental

Written by Jené Luciani for Shape.com "Mind over matter. We’ve all heard that, right? Now, new studies are showing that exercise and eating right really is mental. So-called ‘brain training‘ is proving effective in helping people make smarter food choices, work out more often, and even cut out unhealthy habits like excessive drinking. We reached out to Lumosity, a company that develops games and programs for brain training, to find out how we can apply the latest breakthroughs in neuroscience to improve cognitive abilities and make healthier lifestyle choices. Memory games and positive thinking may help to control our impulses to eat unhealthy foods. Sitting at the computer is not exactly sy

How to Maintain Motivation to Eat Healthy

Written by Robin Konie for Thank Your Body .com How many of you have made the commitment to eat better only to get derailed a few months/weeks/days into it? With a myriad of hurdles that get in the way (time, money, desire, etc.) it seems that losing motivation to eat healthy is common. So how do you stay motivated to eat well? That’s the golden question. After years (and years and years) or vowing to “eat better” and always falling back into bad habits, I was amazed to see real change and progress happen a couple of years ago. And I am happy to say that those changes have been pretty permanent. So what is the key to success? What really keeps you going? While I can’t speak for every person

Here's Why It's So Hard to Maintain Weight Loss

Written by Rachael Rettner for LifeScience Keeping weight off after a diet is no easy feat, and most people who lose weight eventually gain at least some, if not all of it back. This isn't a matter of lack of willpower or effort, but of biology: To maintain weight loss, you are essentially fighting a system that's wired to re-gain lost pounds. The biology of weight loss, and weight maintenance, is a complex process, but here's a simplified look at the changes that happen following weight loss that can make it all too easy to re-gain weight: When you lose weight, your energy stores, or fat deposits, decrease. This causes hormones in your body — including one called leptin, which is made by fa

The Real Problem

What is the real problem? When a client comes in to see a therapist, they have usually identified their primary problem as they see it. Often their entire life view is centered around the presenting problem, and they have developed a well thought out and planned outcome when the issue is resolved. Often they view the presenting problem as their only problem, and when this problem is solved, everything will be great. However, life is not just one problem. Life has many challenges, but one issue can get all the blame. When this happens, individuals often become hyper-focused on one issue and ignore what may be the actual issues. When a client presents with just one issue, I often ask, “what pr

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